a few more thoughts on marriage

Prayer is the greatest ministry of a wife for her husband. I cannot emphasize this enough to you; I cannot tell myself this more emphatically than – prayer is my greatest ministry to Tyler, my husband. You will be learning who the Lord is. You will confess your sins and take of yourself before the Lord. And you will take care of, minister to, cheer for, and do battle alongside of your husband through the great ministry of prayer.

Also, marriage is the greatest, most serious endeavor you will ever embark upon and give your life. So, prepare – mind, heart, and soul – with Scripture, books, good conversation with other godly women, wives. Your strength by actually putting into practice what the Lord teaches you through His Word, through books, and the good conversations you enjoy with Titus 2 women. Take your marriage seriously. You are a WIFE.

You are the Lord’s first then your husband’s til death do you two part. Whatever else hinders, dissuades, takes your heart from your marriage – get rid of it; stop it; leave it, flee from it. When you cling to the Lord and cleave to your spouse, you are being loyal and true to your real identity. When you deny or betray your identity in Christ, or your identity as a wife to your husband, you are betraying who you are.

…and a marriage video-testimony to make you smile through your tears.

my men!: daddy and son

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promised photograph

promised photograph

When I announced through my blog that we are having a second boy, I promised an ultrasound photograph. And, finally, here it is! Here’s precious baby Grafton!

We had a family – maternity – photo session with our favorite photographer at Fletcher Park, and I promise again to share a few with you, too!

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simple yummy

We all love a good recipe, right? i mean, it’s one of the reasons we love to use pinterest  - and then think about cooking :) and sometimes, we even do it! here are a few of the recipes that we have recently really enjoyed …

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this is a great recipe to serve with any comfort food dish – it’s simple to prepare with all of the ingredients in your pantry, and it’s yummy to eat :)

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so, we just used pre-made pie crust, and used a glass instead of a cookie cutter to cut the dough for our hand pies. they were really easy to prepare, especially since tyler did most of it, :) , and we enjoyed eating them, too!

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from southern living, so I knew it had to be good! we served it on easter sunday with appetizers before our fancy family dinner – the mixture of tart and sweet was refreshing and it is pretty, too :)

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instructions from pinterest :: 4-6 raw chicken breasts, new potatoes, green beans in 9×13 dish. Sprinkle with a packet of Italian dressing mix and then top with a melted stick of butter. Cover with foil and bake at 350 degrees for 1 hour
my comments :: so I half-ed the recipe – in the sense that i think you only need 1/2 a packet of seasoning and half a stick of butter. we have used carrots and green beans. It was delicious! Tyler said he would eat it every other night & this is a great meal to take to a friend or for when company is coming

Here is a link to my pinterest page where I share all of the recipes I’ve tried (from pinterest) and what I think of them :: Tasted and Tried

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after all, that’s what the Lord wants for them

Growing Up :: Isn't he so big!? And handsome!! {photo courtesy of always autumn studios}

Growing Up :: Isn’t he so big!? And handsome!! {photo courtesy of always autumn studios}

I just finished reading through this great, little book right now by Rachel Jankovic entitled, Loving the Little Years : Motherhood in the Trenches. I love it. love it. It’s short, sweet, to the point with room for grace, and Gospel-Centered.

In one of her chapters, she writes about growth spurts. You remember, as a child, just being bored all of the sudden? With all of your toys – all of your ideas – all of your imaginations. You were growing. Nothing was wrong with you, but you might have felt like it. And your mom may have made you feel worse. Or made you clean your room. Or given you a new toy. Whatever the case may be, it was a growth spurt.

Well, right when Rachel started to write about this, I knew exactly what she meant. It’s happening in my own home. Growth spurts embody my son. That’s what the last fourteen months and a few days have been all about. We got into the swing of things from the moment we left the hospital doors. And six weeks later, little love was sleeping in his own crib, in his own room. Peaceful living. Windows welcoming the breeze, suppers eaten with friends. It was great.

And then, growth spurts. Seriously, NOBODY told me about these. He was fussy. Crying. Agitated. Not the little doll I knew. And I was ok with that except I didn’t know what in the world was going on!

Thankfully a friend filled me in.

And we went along our merry way. Growth spurt after growth spurt.

Until about six months of age. He hit a major one! We needed activity and fun and excitement. And so we enjoyed new toys and books together; we learned to listen to music and dance. He crawled – He walked around the furniture – he walked! And we turned one years old.

And then, the second major one. And boy, we started running! (Ok, so Leland’s running is more like our fast walking, I must admit,…) but what I’m saying is that he loves being out! outside! at the park! in the dirt! swinging in the sky! sliding down the slide! Playing in the water!

Having a big ole big boy time.

Rachel ends her chapter with this, “Growing, after all, is what God wants them to do.”

Man, it hit me. That’s right, Lord! I amened her. And it reminded me how I struggled through during when I was pregnant whether or not it was right and good to pray for a healthy baby to the glory of God.

It’s not that I thought, I’ll pray for a sick one.

It’s just that we have many friends who have sick little loves. Physical deformity and mental issues. And, girl, I’m not any better than they are. I don’t deserve and they do. Or they do and I don’t. It’s truly based on the LORD. And to God be the glory!! in those baby’s and family’s lives – So, I really did struggle through how to pray about this whole thing.

And do you know, through the same friend who advised me to ‘run with it’ with Leland’s growth spurts because he is a big, growing boy – he is vivacious and quick – and we want to cultivate strong, godly men; not mischievous, up to nothin’ good boys. And running with it will help…

This friend led me to the Word – and to the Lord. The Lord wants us to pray against the Fall. The physical deformity and the mental retardation. It’s not a health-wealth -prosperity gospel. It’s just that as much as suffering is promised, the Lord doesn’t ask us to seek it. He commands that we seek Him, His kingdom on earth as it is in heaven.

And in heaven, healthy people live.

So I prayed for a healthy baby. And the Lord did give us a healthy baby boy. And to Him be all of the glory, and honor, and praise.

And as Leland lives, and grows, and his more and more active, honestly my prayer is that I will enjoy and love the reality that the Lord wants this growth and good for him.

And that I will grow along with my son. That I will learn what it means to parent him today, in the grace that the Lord gives freely and new each morning. I pray that I will be proactive, that I will accomodate, that I will come alongside him and learn new ideas and put my mind and hands to new projects.

I so long for us to both grow in the grace and admonition of the Lord. We truly are both equal at the Cross; we are truly both children in front of the Lord.

All of this growing does come with pain sometimes and it does come with the need for physical and spiritual nourishment.

And I pray the Lord keeps my nose to His so that I can continue to love well and fully give glory the Lord all the days of our lives.

Growing Up :: We LOVE this baby-moment captured and we wait in anticipation to see a photo like this of a little boy grown into a man. Won't that be so marvelous!?

Growing Up :: We LOVE this baby-moment captured and we wait in anticipation to see a photo like this of a little boy grown into a man. Won’t that be so marvelous!? {photo courtesy of always autumn studios… our favorite!}

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the awesome mystery of marriage

I was recently asked to contribute to a discussion for a soon-to-be-married woman on the topic of favorite, most loved, most used marriage advice. I loved reading (this was an email discussion) all of the replies from women much more seasoned in marriage and life than I am, from women who have walked with the Lord longer than I have. And as I truly did want to reply, I wanted to reply carefully and considerately. I wanted to consider the Lord, all that He is, to me, in me, to my marriage, in my marriage – to me as a WIFE, as the homemaker, as the mommy – in my marriage. I wanted to consider my husband and what his thoughts would be – and I wanted to consider where precious love getting married is. I wanted to remember where my thoughts were focused and all of the desires, excitements that were treasured up in my heart leading into the days of my first days of marriage. So with all of those things considered before the Lord for a few days, I want now carefully to articulate my addition to this great, edifying discussion. 

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We know as believers, as sweet children of the Lord, that the Greatest Command is to love the Lord with all of our heart, mind, soul, and strength. And we know the second command is like the first, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Well, sweet wife-to-be, your closest neighbor is most certainly your husband. You will share your LIFE with him. Your  yucky days and your happiest days; your bed, your food, your space, and even by accident on occasion, your toothbrush. He is your neighbor, and you are to love him as you love yourself. Don’t you love it when someone pays attention long enough to give you or say to you or bless you with just the right thing at the right moment? That it what your days can be filled with as you seek to love your husband as yourself. Maybe breakfast is his thing, so you learn to cook a mean omelet. Does he love a certain sport? Learn to love it with him. This is about loving YOUR husband, so don’t worry about how girlfriend loves hers; think about and put into play all that you know about your husband so that you can love him as you love yourself. There’s great freedom, grace, and a life time and learning and loving that awaits in this endeavor and pursuit to love your husband as you love yourself.

We also know as believers, that marriage is a beautiful, awesome, wonderful, terrifying picture of the mystery of Christ and the church. And we, the wife, get to be the church, holy and pure, loyal and true (in the church’s best days) to our respective husbands. I will cut right to the chase in my thoughts. The bride, the wife, is called to submit. Paul calls women here because Christ submitted to the Father and gained great glory for Himself, because the Church is to submit to Christ, bringing great reward to itself, and we are to be like Christ as we submit to our husbands like He submitted to the Father, and we are to be like the Church in this great mystery of marriage as She submits to Christ in the reality of realities that the world exists. So here we are, in grace and freedom and love and until death do us part, to submit to our husbands. Paul – remember who he is – and under whose authority he writes – calls you NOT to passive subservience, but calls  you TO active submission. Sarah, we know from 1 Peter 3, calls Abraham, her husband, lord. As you learn to call Christ our Savior Lord, call your husband lord in the right order. And live your life as such. Where Christ is not Lord, flee. Where your husband is not lord, leave. You are His. You are your husband’s.

Heart, mind, soul, and strength. And that leads me to another part of the wonderful mystery of marriage.

Sex. I know this certainly was one of the beautiful parts of marriage on the top of my mind days before marrying my precious husband. Scripture tells us that our bodies as our husband’s wife is to be a ministry of love to him. Through the way you keep your body, and through the way in which we give our bodies to our respective husbands. Your body is his alone. Your body is the temple of the living God. See the correlation throughout this great wonder of marriage? And you might have missed all of it if you stay stuck in your own mind’s thoughts on marriage. But when we set our minds on Scripture, on things above, and we let our eyes adjust to the glories of the Gospel, and when we let our hearts’ affection be  stirred by the Lover of our Souls, we realize, goodness gracious, Yes, Lord, I give you my all. And yes, precious husband, who is Christ to me, I give you gladly and fully and alone my body. 

Another thing that occurred to me throughout my marriage, and I feel like hints of this truth are presented in many of the other women’s so-helpful advice, is the truth that marriage is a shadow, a picture, of the real thing to come, of the One we will be able to touch with our hands and behold with our eyes on the other side of heaven. So, we are husband and wife here. But we are brother and sister in Christ forever.  This is why the Lord says be equally yoked. And this is the relationship to cherish so dearly. Your husband is your brother, your bestest friend. Treasure him in the day ins and day outs, for those are the times you have. And cultivate that relationship, he as your brother, and you as his sister, because when the time comes that both of you enter to enjoy eternity, you will only then truly begin to get to know each other. And how sweet it will be that you have been practicing for your entire marriage until that Day comes. 

I could list practical ways that my husband and I have implemented these great truths, these heavy realities, but what’s SO wonderful about what you are to enter – for girlfriend, the wedding is just the beginning, is that you are going to write your own story, draw your own masterpiece, bring your special personality and life and love before the Lord for his glory. And goodness knows, by the grace of the Lord that knows no bounds, it will be to the praise and honor and glory of our Lord Jesus Christ, who in Him all things are created and are held together. Praise God from whom all blessings flow – and praise God for your precious marriage. 

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